Balancing Work and Family
A resource guide for entrepreneurs who are running a small business and raising a family

by Reed Richardson

For many small business owners, fulfilling their entrepreneurial dreams can quickly become an all-consuming labor of love, gobbling up all of their time, energy, and resources. But if a particular start-up or burgeoning business is also, literally, a mom-and-pop store, this singular devotion to work just isn't realistic, as parental duties will often require just as much, if not more, attention than one's entrepreneurial responsibilities. Some try to overcome this challenge by intertwining the two commitments and getting everyone-from kids to grandparents, siblings to in-laws-deeply involved in the family business. Other small business owners take the opposite tack and strive to maintain a distinct physical, mental, and emotional separation between their work and family lives. Whatever approach one takes, striking the right balance between keeping your family happy and making your business successful rarely happens without a little help along the way. So, here's a resource guide for all the CEO moms and dad-preneurs out there.

Organizations
To get some real "been there, done that" advice on work-life balance from experienced small business owners, mom-and-dad entrepreneurs would be wise to turn to the experts at SCORE (Service Corps of Retired Executives, http://www.score.org ), perhaps the nation's best-known small business coaching and mentoring organization. For a more academic take on dealing with family issues as a business owner, look for assistance at one of the several Family Business Centers (FBCs) housed within business schools spread across the Midwest and Northeast. Located at the University of Wisconsin (http://www.fbc.wisc.edu), Loyola University of Chicago (http://www.luc.edu/fbc), University of New Hampshire (http://www.familybusiness.unh.edu), Northeastern University (http://www.cba.neu.edu/cfb), and the University of Massachusetts (http://www.umass.edu/fambiz), these centers offer practical help as well as theoretical information to entrepreneurs struggling with family dynamics issues. However, it's important to point out that much of the research done by these FBCs focuses on the challenges facing well established, multi-generational family-oriented businesses rather than those confronting early-stage startups run by parents of young children. (For a good example of the FBC's academic emphasis, check out this article on managing complex family relationships within a business: http://www.umass.edu/fambiz/articles/successful_succession/managing_complex.html.)

 

Online
For more contemporary, day-to-day ideas about how to raise a family while running a small business-or if you just want to commiserate with the trials and tribulations of another entrepreneurial parent-try sampling a few of the following blogs. In a space dominated by "mommy" blogs, Brian Reid takes a somewhat in-your-face approach to child-rearing while living and working at home in one the very few father-oriented blogs, Rebel Dad (http://www.rebeldad.com). Consider the Work-at-Home Mom blog (http://www.blog.wahm.com) an opposite-gender counterpart to Rebel Dad, although this blog features several different women discussing a wide range of work-life topics, from telecommuting to childhood disease, from career switching to school homework projects. Hybrid Mom (http://www.hybridmom.com/blog), is another group blog with well-written, near-daily posts, which run the gamut from long, philosophical explorations of the rites of motherhood to hard-nosed advice about the importance of business contracts.

As a business and motherhood blog that strives to be both functional and fabulous, Mogul Mom (http://www.themogulmom.com) offers helpful entrepreneurial tips in a style reminiscent of a women's service magazine. (Sample post: "Eight Ways to Work Smarter and Be Happier.") The Mom Entrepreneur blog (http://www.themomentrepreneurblog.com), on the other hand, sticks to a more straightforward approach when covering more nuts-and-business topics and profiling successful mothers who own businesses. The Working Moms message board at iVillage.com (http://www.messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-psworkingmom?ice=iv|hy|pp) lets site members (registration is free) post questions and trade advice on any number of work-life topics, with special sections devoted to "Bringing Home the Bacon" and "Home & Family." But for a comprehensive, one-stop-shop approach, you'd be hard pressed to do better than Working Mother magazine's Mom Blog (http://www.workingmother.com/?service=vpage/1271), which hosts dozens of writers-site members are encouraged to sign up and join in as well-and features several posts per day about balancing career and family.

 


Books
If you're looking for more in-depth thinking about work and family issues there are a wealth of books on the topic. One of this year's most recent entries, Millionaire Moms: The Art of Raising a Business and a Family at the Same Time (Morgan James, 2010), by Joyce Bone, takes the reader on a whirlwind journey from business idea to start-up launch and then adds in several dashes of experience through short vignettes about other successful millionaire moms. (Bone also maintains an online website and blog at http://www.millionairemom.com.) Mining this same vein of successful mothers who overcame financial anxiety by pursuing their own entrepreneurial dreams is the more dated but still relevant Secrets of Millionaire Moms: Learn How They Turned Great Ideas Into Booming Businesses (McGraw-Hill, 2007), by Tamara Monosoff. Spurred on by her own struggles in managing both a small business and a family, Mary E. Davis wrote The Entrepreneurial Mom: Managing for Success in Your Home and Your Business (Turner, 2007), a compact guide to juggling the roles of caregiver and boss.

In The ParentPreneur Edge: What Parenting Teaches About Building a Successful Business (Wiley, 2007), author and serial entrepreneur Julie Lenzer Kirk draws parallels between raising a child and the different stages encountered when launching and growing a small business. (She also maintains a blog about these issues at www.blog.julielenzerkirk.com.) Author Jennifer Kalita covers some of the same ground in her 136-page book, The Home Office Parent: Raising Kids and Profits Under One Roof (Wyatt-MacKenzie, 2007), but with a special emphasis on the challenges of both raising children and running a business in one's home. Written by a group of male and female educators, Women in Family Business: What Keeps You up at Night? (BookSurge, 2009), by Patricia Annino, et al., follows a unique structure, with each of the book's eight chapters devoted to a different relationship role-wife, mother, sister, daughter, etc.-that a woman plays in society and how it can impact upon a family business. Finally, for a look at work-life balance issues that arise when children of entrepreneurs grow up and prepare to take over what has become a more mature and successful small business, the father-daughter team of Larry and Laura Colin wrote Family, Inc.: How to Manage Parents, Siblings, Spouses, Children, and In-Laws in the Family Business (Career Press, 2008).

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