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From my perspective, rejection is just Nature's way of saying that whatever I'm doing is wrong. Stress, fear, doubt, depression and all that are Nature's way of saying that whatever I'm doing is STILL wrong. If I want a different result than I've been getting, I have to DO something that's different than what I've been doing. If I don't know what to do differently, then I have to LEARN.

Nearly nine out of ten adults haven't read a non-fiction book since high school (source: Association of American Publishers). Nine out of ten people who post questions in these forums ignore or argue with the advice they're given. There are a lot of people who don't want to learn anything, or do anything differently. They want the world to work they way THEY think it should -- instead of the way it does. So they're stuck . . . until they make a decision to get unstuck.

Getting unstuck means seeking help and learning from a source that has the right knowledge, skills, experience, and judgment. Since only a very small percentage of people are willing to admit that they're stuck, and then to truly listen and learn, the supply of resources available to help and teach them far exceeds the demand in most cases. So for anyone who asks wisely, help is there and learning can happen quickly. Further, once they learn what they need to know (that they didn't know before), they gain a phenomenal edge over that 90 percent of their "competition" who don't or won't ever learn it. Things just get easier after that.

Anyway, those are MY thoughts on the subject . . .

P.S. In the second sentence of my post above, I should have written "Stress, fear, doubt, feelings of depression . . ." I absolutely didn't mean to suggest that depression (as a clinical/medical condition) was Nature's way of sending some sort of message. I apologize for not wording the initial post more carefully.

Rejection for my start up consisted of three years' worth of no, that's a dumb idea, no one wants that, no one will pay for that, you are crazy, ad nauseum. I had a guy ready to go to get started, and then one day I had an offer of investment. Although it was not a lot of money for a tech start up, my guy saioh no honey we are going and we are going NOW... Talk about scared something...less (wink). I still wake up at 2AM going what have I done? I have cashed in my IRA money, sold some jewels, borrowed money, gave out shares, bought computer equipment (Best Buy zero percent is great, Citibank is not far behind...)

I guess the one thing that helped me through was the chapter in Guy Kawasakis book Rules for Revolutionaries about dumb ideas and dumb things: The apple computer, the lightbulb, xerox machine, fax machine, automobile. So I figured that if all that stuff was called stupid and became rousing successes, then my little biz app was going to become a success as well.

When I was going through an awful time and had those pesky panic attacks I would talk myself out of them using the littany against fear in the Dune series. Really. I still use it if things get weird, which they are right now....we are ready to go to beta test, launch at a global aviation meeting in March (I Nearly choked when my event coordinator called last night and told me it was 4000 for a 10x10 space and the design guy wants double that!!). On top of that, my next lease return has been cancelled.

My experience teaches me, that the worse the time at present, the better the blessing and reward in the future. One day you will see that little speck of light at the end of the tunnel, just keep going, doing what you do to make it. You will come out on the other side. I promise. You will have learned some incredible life lessons about yourself and other people. You will know yourself better and you will also know who your friends are. Make a list of steps and go one at a time. I have a list of steps as well. Sometimes theres only one on the list, but I do not have to sit around and make decisions.

Thanks for your post....you have helped me today as well. Hang in there honey, you are not alone.

BTW I have this posted in my office: I live by it.

DO OR DO NOT...THERE IS NO TRY. yoda

Loose the words try, and what if. Dry the eyes, get some cold water, get up, get dressed and show up. Thats 90% of the battle won right there.

Please keep us posted. Best DD

i love that yoda quote

Karate do 'yes'. Thanks for the smile as well.

Hi Everyone
Thank You so very much for your responds, they are all very good advise and I plan to use everyone's advise. One thing at time. You all probably have experienced the same things like this in some shape or form. I dont even talk to people I know anymore.This is the response I get from them just as a matter of speaking of course.I don't do this but they tell me "Put the Crack Pipe Down and Walk Away". "Stop living in a pipe Dream". This does motivate me to prove them wrong, but when constient rejection I Get so down. I will show every one of these suckers that don't have to believe in me. But I DO. I will prevail! Again thank you everyone for the incouraging words, you just don't know how much you all have touched my life. You know what my News Years Resolution is going to be!. I don't have to put the crack pipe down because I never used it or picked it up, but I am GOING TO WALK AWAY from everyone of them . You all have made me such a better person, Thank You. PS I went window shopping today (can't afford anything else) and you know what it felt so GOOD. Happy Holidays to everyone and God Bless you ALL. This is the season for me to reconnect with God!

I have experienced this having started my own business.

I guess in the end, my logic has been that if someone doesn't buy my services that's a shame for THEM. THEY will miss out on my excellent skills, experience, results etc.

Also (and its easy to forget), there ARE a lot of tyre kickers out there and people who want your services for free and there are others who will lead you on and still you end up with nothing. Its important to remember you haven't been rejected personally and there may be heaps of different reasons that are totally irrelevant to you why there was no sale - think of those nonsales like George Costanza "its not you, its me". Because more often than not it really is about them - i.e.) no budget, spending freeze etc.

Hope this helps.