First and foremost, I want to say that I am humbled by all the expressed thoughts and prayers. They are appreciated more than I can say...
This thread has taken an unusual turn. The concepts of how we are drawn into credit problems, (currently and historically) are raising even more questions. The biggest question seems to be, "Just how is debt being sold to us?" Why do we feel compelled to go into debt?
We use the terms "Credit" and "Creditworthiness" as if it is something to achieve. It is like a life goal to get a great "Credit Score." I like Ramsey's definition of credit score. He calls it a "I love debt score." In order to get this great "Credit Score", we must have a history of going into debt. (The earlier and more often, the better.) In a way, something is wrong with that. The person that has not needed a loan until now, can't get it. And the person that finances every purchase they make, can always get more.
I have always looked at a loan as a life saver. (The round emergency flotation device, not the candy.) The person that can swim comfortably, dose not need one. The person that is tired and near drowning, needs it desperately. If we must make a decision of who to throw the life saver to by the credit score model, we throw the life saver to the one that is comfortably swimming, and NOT to the one about to drown. Does that make sense?
Does anyone remember the movie "War Games?" In it, a large leaning computer was put in charge of when and if to fire our nuclear weapons. It is a scary thought to think that our lives hinged on how this computer ran the numbers. (It scared me more to think that the government was in charge of the numbers, but that is a different story.) We now laugh at the idea of our destiny being decided by a computer program. But we will gladly have our financial futures judged by a mathematical algorithm of FICO. How did we get sold that?
How did all these people get into bad loans? I am fairly sure that no gun was used. I do feel that banks and mortgage houses took advantage of the greed and ignorance of people wanting houses. Real Estate ads all over the place told of "EZ" terms and "We will work with you to get your loan." Lets face facts that owning a home can be better than renting, not much selling had to be done there. The selling had to be done on the rediculous terms of the loan. Banks sold people on the idea the "Adjustable" rate could go down, and of course it did not. My stepdaughter is now in foreclosure because her rate "adjusted."
Ideas are sold, just like products are sold. We have been sold on the idea that going into debt is a good thing. So many people have bought into the idea that it seems perfectly natural to have a wallet full of credit cards and two jobs to pay for it all. Somewhere we have to stop buying the idea that lots of debt is good. At least we should slow down on the purchases.
Where would our lives be if the only loan we needed as consumers was for our home. Imagine if we stopped borrowing money for our cars, computers, TV's, airline tickets, and coffee from Starbucks. It blows my mind that you can buy a soda from a vending machine with a "Credit Card."
For the record, I don't gamble. (I don't drink, don't smoke, and have not had cable tv for almost a year now.) I have tried to live a fairly simple life. Not monastically simple, but simple enough...
Thanks for all the posts...
Tim...